It’s hard to be rejected. It’s probably one of the cruelest things we do to each other. And Christianity has embraced Rejection just as much as the rest of the world. They even call it a godly tool and have classes to show us how to reject someone “lovingly”.In a world where children are bullied and rejected in school, why do we, the Peacemakers, embrace the very behavior we hate?

It’s a great example of calling evil, good. And finding justification in causing pain. After all, if my church says it’s a necessary and godly tool, then I should do it. Plus, they said “shake the dust” off my feet.
My, how eager we are to justify our cruelty even though Jesus never gave us that justification. He never rejected anyone.
“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” I Corinthians 13:4-7

We never considered that He has another way. And when Father showed me this revelation, I wrote “Rejection & Identity” and “Rejection & Identity Book Two”. They are both on Amazon and Kindle.

Since then, I’ve been very aware when I feel the urge to reject someone. It isn’t an easy mindset to break, but I’ve discovered that Father always has another way when I go to Him first.

Often, His answer is in my Identity. The more clearly I see it, the less other people’s behavior affects me. And then it’s easy to love others unconditionally.

Oddly that unaffected Identity often causes others to reject me because they see it as arrogance. But Identity and arrogance are polar opposites. The stronger my Identity, the more sincere and unconditional my love for others becomes. It’s ironic but true.

This has been my journey and therefore, I’ve had to learn to accept rejection from others. I’m just not very good at finding joy in it.

However, there is one really great blessing in the result. It’s a surprising freedom. And that’s because conflict often isn’t just a difference of opinion or doctrine. Sometimes there’s an underlying message and that is where true arrogance lives. Someone is demanding that I change….or else I will be rejected. It’s an unspoken ultimatum, and its purpose is to coerce me into surrendering myself in fear. People are often highly intimidated by the threat of rejection especially when it comes from their believing brothers and sisters. I think the fear is that if they are righteous and reject us then it’s just like God rejected us and damned us to hell. Whoa! That’s scary!

Ironically, I can say that fortunately, I’ve been alone most of my life. So, when a fellow believer rejects me, I’m not afraid, however, I still suffer the pain. Rejection hurts.

Later, when the pain lessens and the manipulation clears from the air, I notice tremendous relief. Pressure is gone. The threat is history. Freedom fills the atmosphere.

I can say what I want to say. I can receive revelations freely. There’s nothing in my way.

Then I face a new set of people who hear my new revelations and the cycle begins again. They require a lot of explanation because they aren’t in this place and haven’t been present with me on this journey from there to here. Sometimes they ask “leading” questions meant to bait me. And when my answer exposes my Identity, then they leave too, rejecting me.

As Identity strengthens, rejection cycles seem to increase. Ironically, Identity doesn’t make me more stubborn, rather less fearful. I’m incoercible. It’s an unaggressive strength that people often mistake for arrogance, but it’s the reason why God often said, “I am”.
And, I am, too I’m free from guilt and insecurity, and not afraid of what men can do to me.

Identity sets us free to live in His image and operate in His likeness. No one else can give us that. No community or church or friend will make us like Him. But true community and friends will support Identity, usually, because they have discovered their own.

I’m sharing this story because many of you are feeling overwhelmed by the heartache of repeated rejections. We wonder when this season will pass, but I think it’s a permanent season. It is the true face of Persecution and what it means to follow Jesus.

The joy of Revelation and Identity outweigh the heartache of rejection.

Blessings, my friends.
Faith